Category Archives: Sarah

When you wish upon a star

Sarah and I honeymooned in the Bahamas. On the last day of our vacation, we got up at 3 A.M. and went down to the beach, where we sat in lounge chairs, held hands, and watched the Leonid meteor shower. It was indescribably beautiful.

Sarah said, “Make a wish!”

I replied, “Don’t be silly. I already got my wish.”

Last night, the Blue Fairy appeared to me (okay, it was at a Halloween party). She bopped me on the head with her magic wand, and said, “Make a wish!”

She may have wondered why I couldn’t answer her.

Come Sail Away

Sarah’s parents have an eleven-meter sailboat, Deliverance. (Sarah’s dad is an obstetrician.) Sarah grew up on the water, and she absolutely loved sailing. It was central to her life. I learned to love it too, except for the fact that I always get sick. I think it’s the one thing she would have changed about me.

Sarah was stuck with me, but Nate was her second chance. Watching him discover the boat was one of her greatest joys. She was determined that he would be a water baby, just as she had been.

So when Tish and Francis invited us to go for a day sail in July, it was bittersweet. This would be my first time on board without Sarah. I knew it would be sad for me, but I also knew that Nate would love it. More, I knew that sailing and exploring the islands would be one of the best ways for him to learn who Sarah really was. So, for the record, even though I always get sick, I am determined to accept every invitation to go sailing from now on. I just hope next summer is less rainy.

We brought Jennifer’s family along. Jennifer and her parents, Beth and Paul, are very good friends of ours. Nate sleeps at their house at least once a week so I can have some down time, and I am quite unable to express how grateful I am to have them in my life.

Paul documented our lovely day sail by taking approximately two hojillion pictures. Unfortunately, a thick fog came in before we made it all the way to Cuttyhunk, so we had to turn around and head back. And Nate was too excited to nap on the boat; by the end of the day, he was completely fried. So I tied him to a chair, and we enjoyed dinner at the yacht club.

It was a good day.

Smile, and maybe tomorrow

Why didn’t I think of that?

The other night at dinner, out of nowhere, Nate said to me, “We need someone to stay with us. Our family is too small.”

After I finished choking on my pizza, I said, “I know, buddy. It’s just you and me since mama died. I miss her a lot.”

He said, “Yeah… I miss her too. …Can we get a new one?”

“…Oh, honey. Maybe someday.”

And the seasons, they go round and round

One of Nate’s favorite books is Summer, by Alice Low. It was mine when I was little, and I love it too. It follows a brother and sister (and their dog, or “pup,” depending on what he needs to rhyme with) through an idealized summer, circa 1963. I decided to use it as a blueprint for Nate’s summer this year, and I think I did pretty well.

In June, we celebrated Zoë’s birthday at Scrabblebrook Farm. Heather and Dan threw a big cookout with lots of delicious food. They had an inflatable bouncy castle, by which Nate was completely horrified, and a little red wagon, of which he couldn’t get enough. I think the highlight of the day was when Uncle Dan took Nate for a ride on the ATV.

We also went to Par Fore the Cure, a charity golf tournament organized by my friend Mike to benefit the Jimmy Fund. Sarah always loved this event. Neither of us had any interest in golf; it was all about the cookout. We would each get one lobster and Sarah would eat both of them, while I stuffed myself with Fuddrucker’s burgers. This year I had to find someone else to eat my lobster, so we invited Amadis, Lisa, and Keith. Nate’s favorite part was sitting in a golf cart and pretending to drive us to the aquarium.

Next was a double celebration, Susan’s birthday and Father’s Day, at Tish & Francis’s house. Uncle Dan brought his powerboat and took everyone for a cruise up the river to Battleship Cove. Nate went along, but he announced that he was all done about halfway there, so they had to come back and drop him off before heading out again.

We wrapped up the month with a visit to Battleship Cove that did not involve zooming around on a powerboat: we drove there. My dad, Tish, and Francis came too. It was raining, but Nate had a grand old time shooting down enemy aircraft and clambering up and down the companionways. We also visited the Fall River Carousel.

Fall River Carousel

Coming soon: July!

What did you do this summer?

Waiting to sail your worries away

After Sarah passed away, the outpouring of support was tremendous. I mean, it was truly overwhelming. People brought us food, cleaned the house, did our laundry, went shopping, you name it. And a bunch of folks from work decided to chip in and buy this.

Boat bed

Sarah always loved this bedroom set, but we could never afford it. It came from PBK and cost a bloody fortune. Needless to say, Nate is simply over the moon with delight. Imagine a three-year-old who wants to go to bed every night.

Nate on board

To Sara S, for organizing this amazing gift, and to all of you who have given, and continue to give, so much: thank you.